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Jordan. 20 NZ.
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Letters
to someone I've never met

kelsium:

You can tell a girl she’s smart her whole life, encourage her in school, buy her a chemistry set, send her to math camp, help her apply for college scholarships in STEM fields, and she’s still eventually going to walk into a classroom, a lab, or a job interview and have some man dismiss her existence, deny her funding, pass her over for a promotion, or take credit for her work. How about you work on getting those assholes out of power and quit telling me not to call girls pretty.

exams are crushing my soul

Fuckssakes

So I’m just now finding out about the six innocent young women who were shot and killed in California a few hours ago.

This is the most disgusted and angry I’ve felt in a long time.

The vile piece of scum who did it, claimed it was an act of revenge, because he had previously been rejected by women, and felt that as the “true alpha male” it was his right to be given unrestricted access to women’s bodies.

So he went out and killed six, and injured many more. Now six lives are ended, and more affected, because this bastard couldn’t figure out that maybe he was still a virgin, because he was a right asshole.

This internalized hatred of women and the resulting oppression absolutely has to stop.

Various contemporary interpretations of religious texts including the Qur’an and King James bible, show that not only are women unequal to men, but they are to be subjugated and punished if they do not avail themselves to a man’s whim. Society has accepted this as a norm.

For way too long now we have heard stories of women being attacked and killed for their unwillingness to bend to male desires. Like the young woman, Maren Sanchez, stabbed in the neck and killed in Connecticut, for refusing to be a boy’s date to junior prom. Fuckssakes.

MRA’s, and those who agree to the fucked up logic of what is driving male entitlement, think about it. Your ownership of a penis should not dictate your twisted sense that women owe you shit.

Women don’t owe you anything. Modern feminism is more than wanting more than 70c to the dollar in pay. This toxic fucking mind-set that women are lesser people… is getting us killed.

Fuck that. 

geeses:

m4rcobodt:

m4rcobodt:

THINGS IT IS PERFECTLY OKAY TO BE

  • male
  • female
  • heterosexual
  • homosexual
  • pansexual
  • asexual
  • bisexual
  • cis
  • trans
  • non binary

THINGS IT IS NOT OKAY TO BE

  • an asshole
  • a goose

this post wasn’t even about social justice it was about my hatred of geese

you’re on our list.

Feminism In Faith: Zainah Anwar’s Quest To Reinterpret The Qur’an’s Most Controversial Verse

I am trying to educate myself - and thought this was a good one. 

ho-ho-my-lad:

brobecks:

i like wearing lipstick because you leave marks on literally everything omg. kiss a boy’s cheek? my boy now. drink out of a cup? my cup forever. don’t even think about having coffee out of that thing. it’s like marking your territory

Am now begging the views of blogs written by those I deem of legit opinion. - Summary: I'm from NZ - Am studying gender, feminism, ethics, politics, all that good shit. Issue: Am working on parliamentary study of the decriminalization of prostitution that happened here a few years back. Conflict: Feminism. Does the decision help or hinder the fem cause? Obv. there's issues about if sex work is legitimization of the abuse of the primarily female workforce, or is the decriminalization good shit?
never-met

metonymy:

loriadorable:

angryfeministbabe:

loriadorable:

Hey angryfeministbabe, as a sex worker who just wrote a paper on this topic, I’ve gotta say: either your research skills are shit, or you’re so hateful you’re willing to ignore the data.

Research (and lived experiences of actual! sex workers!, who you’re talking about here like we couldn’t possibly be reading your post that you put *in the prostitution tag*) clearly shows decriminalization is best, particularly for the most marginalized workers, and decriminalization is not the same as state regulation. Further, you act like every single problem within the sex industry originates there. Transmisogynistic violence is not unique to the sex industry, and it’s going to take a lot more than legal reform of this one industry to eliminate it.

Struggle harder, please. Preferably not in the public spaces sex workers frequent.

Oh, and never-met, asking random-ass people with zero experience in or knowledge of the sex industry to answer your research questions? Are you for real?

ETA: “Some kinks are harmful”. Wow, yes, very good, some vanilla desires are harmful too, namely *the nonconsensual ones.* Out of all the issues with sex positivity, you’re gonna go the “BUT PERVERTS!” route. I will see myself out.

I am obviousy not a sex worker and do not claim to be. I put it in the tags because I couldnt properly answer it and I was hoping that someone could help me out. There are issues with strict regulations of course.

This was a question I literally answered in a few paragraphs. If I wanted to fully answer this it would have taken a full 10 page paper to show how problems in society effect sex works.

Some kinks are harmful and you shouldnt ignore that? Like slavery/rape kinks and a lot of other ones dont just stay in the bedroom. I never said that rape wasnt an issue either.

I literally just picked the topic and printed out articles. I am nowhere near being ready to talk about my ideas on sex work besides that I support sex workers (which I stated).

So, you *wanted* us to read and correct your ignorance? How about just saying, “Hey, I don’t really know the answer to this question, so why not go ask someone who does?” Do you know how refreshing that would be?I deal with this kind of “feminist” crap daily as a sex working women’s studies major: “I don’t really know shit, but let me tell you my opinion anyway so you can put in the emotional and intellectual labor of correcting me.” That’s not feminist. That’s some bullshit. And get out of here with the excuse that you could’ve sounded less ignorant with ten whole pages. I answered the same question using just as little space and managed to sound like I know what I’m talking about, because I do.

SPEAKING OF, you really want to condescend to me about how my rape play kink is harmful to me, a survivor of multiple forms of sexual abuse who uses it as a coping mechanism? It’s clear you know ZERO POINT ZERO about the psychology of sexuality and trauma, so let me help you out with those ignorant opinions, too: there IS a link between problematic kinks and rape culture, and it is the opposite of what you think.  I’m also pretty sure your pale self doesn’t need to be concern-trolling Black women like Mollena Williams about how they’re dealing with racialized trauma.

I am so so tired of feminists who think their ideological purity means shit when they know NOTHING about the lives of women they’re applying that harmful ideology to. Sit. down.

angryfeministbabe:

So I’ve been sitting on this question for a couple of days because I wanted to give it a good response. There are issues I have with both sides and I dont know if there is a perfect solution. I am a sex-critical feminist because theres a lot of issues I have with sex-positivity (ex: some kinks are harmful).

Basically I support sex workers but not the sex industry. I think if sex work was to be fully decriminalized there would have to be a lot of checks ad balances put in place to avoid abuse from employers and clients. While some women really enjoy sex work and have the ability to choose, there is always the possibility of a woman being “forced” (i.e. there are not jobs available to her that pay the same and she needs money, its more of a economic force).

I am currently researching a paper on sex work, along with a paper on violence against the trans community. Some of the statistics I have seen for trans sex workers show an extremely high amount of physical abuse from clients. A lot of these people do not see jail time, or are even reported to the police. Decriminalization (if done right) could lead to more protections for this community.

Like I said, this topic is something I am still struggling with and I am hoping by writing a paper on it I can fully come to grip with my beliefs. Right now I think a lot of protections could be developed for sex workers if the right people help draft the legislation, but with the current individuals in office I dont have high hopes that this would be successful

((I know I used “she” in this post but men and non-binary individuals can also participate in sex work.))

That’s not feminist.
Correct! That is actually mansplaining with a caveat of possible ignorance (but will then fight with you over your knowledge vs. their lack of knowledge). My friend does this to me a lot.

Srsly? Asking an identifying fem blog for her opinion -alongside the fact that nowhere did I say it was gonna be my only source. Am I not allowed to collect opinion in the name of gathering info? If you want to chime in, cool. But I wanted to hear her side, and I’m happy with it. Just as I’d be happy to take and publish yours. Right next to everyone else in the industry that I’m asking in person. -no need for such anger.